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13 Feb 2012

Valentine’s Day Disturbia

What does Valentine’s Day mean to you?

Valentines Day should be about THE relationship, not just about the lady or the man. It should bring to the surface what you truly love and respect about your relationship as a whole.

I think the taste that most men have for Valentine’s Day isn’t half as sweet as the one that drools from women’s mouths. In fact, InStyle did a poll with 20,000 men on what they will buy their honey for Valentine’s Day. 64% say flowers, 19% forget to buy anything and 17% say jewelry. It saddens me that 64% of these 20,000 men think buying flowers for their Valentine’s is the way to go and 19% totally forget. $100 bucks on flowers versus thinking up something creative leaves us remembering that Valentine’s Day has truly lost it’s spirit, OR did it ever have a spirit? I also think flowers should come more than once a year and needs to lose the “default” place holder for what “special” is on Valentine’s Day.

The sense of “love” comes from the middle ages, when Latin was the language of the intellectuals, but the languages of the people — i.e., the Romance languages — was the vulgar language love stories were written in.Where has the passion gone in “love” and why has Valentine’s Day come down to greeting cards and expensive flowers?

For me making a home cooked meal with candle light, followed by an oiled massage for HALF the price is much more romantic than ordering flowers that will die in a few days anyway. It also brings your relationship to a much heightened level than a card and flowers that say I love you. WORDS are WORD and ACTIONS are ACTIONS.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t need to be expensive, outlandish, absurd, but genuine, thoughtful and sincere. Whether you make 10k, 50k or 150k something from the heart will go much further than the typical BS that has evolved into Valentines Day in 2012.

You want some real, original and creative ideas just hit up the O.C.D. Events Blog: http://ocdexperience.com/eventsblog/

Justin OCD Klosky

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25 Jan 2012

Express Yourself in Love

O.C.D. Love Life Tip #4

Be clear with who you are right off the bat! Relationships are all about clear communication.

Hit that frickin’ ball so hard that the other person has no choice but to catch it or let it drop. Hopefully, they will catch it and throw it right back to you, but if they drop it then at least you came off with a clear understanding of what you wanted to show the other person. Be strong in every way when it comes to you showing off what kind of INDIVIDUAL you are. We are all special on some sort of weird level and in order for that to be seen we need to understand it and show it.

One of my best friends always says, lions show their manes and walk around proud of all the hair surrounding their head. Why don’t we act the same way? Be proud of what you have to offer whether it is physically, mentally and even emotionally. Trust me there will be someone out there who will love you for who you are. Someone who will appreciate every flaw you think you have, because what is love without flaws and things to laugh at. A lion’s mane isn’t really that attractive, but they walk around proud of the kings that they are. Maybe the monkeys laugh at them, but monkeys laugh at everyone.
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6 Dec 2011

Love Yourself First

O.C.D. Love Life Tip #3

If you can’t treat yourself well, it will be almost impossible to treat your partner well.

How often do you do nice things for yourself?

Do you go for dinner alone? Take yourself out to a movie? Shop for a little treat for yourself? A long drive with the windows open, music blasting or a long drive with the windows closed and some classical music to soothe you?

Whatever your fancy is before you think of doing nice things for someone else make sure you are doing them for YOU too. Not many people get into a relationship because they are happy with their lives, but because they are expecting happiness to come from someone else. Granted another person can bring happiness to your life, that is the whole point of wanting to be in a happy and healthy relationship, but how much better and successful would the relationship be if YOU were happy to begin with? How much better would it be if you started the relationship being happy and healthy as an individual?

From experience when you start a relationship needing the other person to fill a void in your own life a recipe for disaster is brewing. Start a relationship not because you’re lonely, not because you want company, not because you need to have sex constantly, but because the person you are adding to your life is that special.
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25 Nov 2011

It’s All About YOU!

O.C.D. Love Life Tip #2

What really makes you happy? Good music, a walk on the beach, sitting alone and reading a great book, cooking, seeing the latest movie in the theatre, outdoor activities, going out drinking with friends, playing with your dog or bird that you bought on a whim, being at the gym, writing, taking a vacation…I could go on forever.

On a much deeper level what makes you happy emotionally? Being with someone who constantly caters to your needs, being with someone who is completely independent from you, having someone who meets you half way and will always talk to you about what you are feeling, or even being with someone you hardly get to see? What about that person who is with someone else while they are with you, but you are too scared to let them go because they “love” you, they really do. I have been in all of these relationships and finally know what I need.

Have you thought about what really makes you happy and what you need?
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10 Nov 2011

O.C.D. Love Life Tip #1

FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU WANT!

I was out to dinner the other night with an entire table of girls, including my girlfriend, and all of the ladies were talking about men, their last relationship, and dating in New York City. They all had different stories, and all behaved differently to get them to their present, single lady lives. They asked me what dating was like in NYC and what to expect from “boys”. My response was clear and simple….

What do you want from them?

This question applies to both men and women, although the answers can vary greatly in sexes.

Before you start dating, again, before you jump into a serious relationship, before you start screwing around and putting your energy all over the place, figure out what you want for yourself first. If you are carelessly dating, playing the field without any thought about what your end goal is, you might have some fun, but you might end up completely confused.

The key word is FOR YOURSELF! Know what you want for yourself first before asking someone else what they want. It will be much easier to find love or even stay clear of it if you know what you’re looking for without someone else putting onto you what they are looking for.

Remember, O.C.D. stands for Organize & Create Discipline. The sooner you start to ORGANIZE your life, set your priorities, dismiss distractions and negativity the sooner you will be able to CREATE the DISCIPLINE you need to operate as a whole person who will be open to finding love.
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